Now Let Me State This Right Up Front!
I am not referring to those naughty fantasies that you may have thought about when you read this title! I’m referring to those thoughts that grow arms and legs from a single comment, facial expression or part of a gesture.
You Know What I’m Talking About!
…when a colleague, client, friend or family member says something innocently, then we start to dissect it in our heads. Or their facial expression changes and unsettles us and we begin to try and work out what they actually meant by that?
That little voice inside our heads can spin a look, word or phrase, maybe even a gesture into something positive – or, more often, negative.
So, is it a positive or a negative spin that you apply to what you see or hear? Maybe that depends on the person delivering it?
If you find you are getting caught up in a negative spiral about someone or that you seem to be reading things into gestures and looks that make you feel bad, annoyed, frustrated or angry, then the 5 Point Guide to breaking the negative spiral, below, might be just what you need.
Breaking The Negative Spiral – A 5 Point Guide
Sometimes we are so wrapped up in what we are doing or saying that we don’t always notice the things that maybe affecting others. Prepare yourself, by using the 5 Point Guide, and discuss your observations openly and honestly. You may be very surprised by the discussions you have and in the end you will find common ground…. if you look for it!