“This is not remedial action. Coaching is transformational work for people who want to create better results in all areas of their life and work”
– Mags Bell
Purpose Of The Coaching Relationship
“The purpose of the coaching relationship is to quickly get to the cause of your dilema rather than focusing on presentable effects.”
– Mags Bell
Highly Effective Teams
“Highly effective teams bring in exceptional results and they do this independently and without supervision because everyione in the team, including the line manager, is a leader.”
– Mags Bell
Time Out
Start the year as you mean to go on. I would ask of you to commit yourself to this one thing this year: more time out just for YOU.
The Daily Grind Of Emails, Meetings, Deadlines And Finance Can Unquestionably Drain Your Creativity.
One of the brilliant things about the brain – and there are so many brilliant and undiscovered things about the brain – is that your subconscious works for you, looking for the answers to your questions, problems and issues, while you are in a relaxed state. The subconscious does all the cleaning up and problem-solves those things the conscious mind cannot.
If You Don’t Allow That Time, Then Frustration Sets In And Creativity Is Stifled.
Create a relaxed state by doing what you love –whether it be writing, walking, reading or some other exercise – or spending time in a favourite place or with loved ones. This will help your mind come up with those ideas and solutions. It is at those times – when you are doing an activity that’s so easy that you forget what you’re doing – that you allow your mind to run free. You may already know how you do this or it may take you a few different activities before you find what works best for you.
Commit to YOURSELF and build TIME OUT activities into your day, week, month and year. Take that time out for your brain to live, soar, imagine and create – and ultimately live a happier life!
New Year Resolutions – How to Make Them Stick!
At this time of year, we are all looking at how we can better our lives. For many, the biggest commitment we start with is the New Year’s resolution.
Have you noticed that sometimes they work and sometimes they don’t? Why is that?
Sometimes they don’t work because we didn’t really want to put the effort into the goal in the first place, or because something we consider much more important or enjoyable got in the way. However, it’s not always as easy as that.
The biggest reason why we don’t accomplish the goals we set out at the beginning of a year is because they are not aligned with our values, purpose or vision. This may sound like gobbledygook, but just think about your own values for a moment. Even if you have never done a values exercise, there are certain values that you believe and hold. When you set out to achieve something, you unconsciously match it up with your values. When the goal is incongruent with the values then you are already in a battle, that to be honest, you just don’t need.
On most occasions when I explore my own lack of achievement regarding my goals or when I’m in discussion with others about their lack of achievement, it always comes down to not being linked to values.
You see, we need to be motivated by the goals we set and if they do not fit with our values, how can we possibly be motivated?
Take some time to make sure that you align your New Year’s resolutions with your values, purpose and vision for the future because if you don’t, then you will not achieve what you set out to do! Plan how you will achieve these goals. Then commit to reviewing and celebrating your milestone achievements along the way.
Happy Resolution and goal setting!
Honesty…is it really that simple?
Now Here’s The Biggie… Honesty, What Do You Believe It To Be For You?
Maybe when we first think of the word honesty, we think of staying true, not telling lies, integrity or maybe you have your own take on honesty. You see that is part of the problem… we all have our own interpretations of honesty.
Yeah, sure we all understand right and wrong and we all understand honesty and lying on a very simple level. On the purest and simplest level, honesty is not lying, cheating or stealing!
The Question Is Do We Really Do Our Best To Live Up To The Simplicity Of Honesty?
However let’s look at a specific scenario that complicates the simplistic view of honesty:
You are talking to a work colleague and the conversation gets round to one of the other people you work with and how they haven’t been pulling their weight in the work stakes over the past few weeks. Just at that moment the other person walks in and says “are you two talking about me?”
What Do You Do?
Be truthful and say yes, or lie and make up something on the spot?
In this scenario it’s not that simple because we have others peoples’ feelings and emotions to deal with. This is where the simple word honesty, becomes complex. Whatever you answered will be based on your past experiences of honesty.
An important aspect about honesty is where is it coming from? Because being honest is a moral dilemma, start with the other person in mind. Make them the centre of your decision making process, not you!
Think About The Consequences Of Your Honesty
…on others and only then the consequences on you. Normally the consequences on others are greater.
When we are honest with ourselves over the real reasons for our actions and behaviours, then we can be completely satisfied that we have made the best decisions for everyone concerned.
One of the easiest ways of working out what works best for you is to just stop and think, see or feel, the times that we judge what we deem dishonesty and check that we know all the facts and understand all points of view, checking in on where our own feelings are coming from.
At this point we can truly and honestly have our own thoughts and opinions on the situations or behaviours, however others may agree with us or disagree; that will all depend on their own life experiences!