Communication is the key

Hi Mags, I’ve had a reflective day, this is how I feel:

Mags asked me what I wanted. I said I wanted to be ‘happy in my job’. It actually went deeper than that. I wanted to be ‘happy’. Without positive self belief there is no inner peace just turmoil and thus it affects everything we do. Relationships are negative and work performance poor. Life becomes robotic and an act.

At the age of 42 that’s where I was. Mags tirelessly worked with me. I learned that fear and trust cannot co exist. I feared what I didn’t trust and the reason I didn’t trust it was because I didn’t understand it.

Communication is the key to understanding and understanding yourself is the key to all of that. I learned that mistakes are not failings they are developmental and are to be forgiven and progressed from.

Dr David Schreiber, author of ‘Healing without Freud or Prozac’ said as a boy he could paddle and fish in the River Sien but as he got older the river became polluted by substances and was unsafe. As he stood on its bank many years later holding the hand of his own little boy he saw that it had purified, the fish had come back and it was once again safe to paddle in. He related that to life. If The River Sien could purify itself then so can we as humans.

That’s what Mags has helped me to do and it’s difficult to find the words that capture the experience.

It’s been an exciting and exhilarating journey. It has completely turned my whole life around.

Last Xmas as I placed the star on top of my Xmas tree I named it Mags Bell, this year at the age of 44 the most appropriate honour I can bestow upon Mags is to call it Brenda.

Thank you Mags for without your coaching, patience and time I may never have shone.